Dramaturgija je za žene način da izraze svoje mišljenje i emocije, a istodobno da pokrenu muškarčev scenaristički način reagiranja.
Dokazano je da muškarci duže vremena razmišljaju., ali brzo donose odluke i rješenja.
Žene pak, brže i jezgrovitije razmišljaju i zamišljaju, ali teško i sporo se odlučuju u izborima.
Priroda se upravo tako poigrala nama da bismo u različitosti postigli jedinstvo.
Ujedno nas je učinila ograničenima i potrebnima, što je izvanredno, jer drugačije ne bismo imali čežnju sa zbližavanjem i povezivanjem.
Dakle, muškarac često vrši izbor, bez obzira na žrtvu i rizik da li će biti uspješno ili ne, dok žena analitički i misaono dodaje boje i život tom izboru, na način da poraze pretvara u pobjede, ljubavlju i podrškom da ohrabruje i tješi svog muškarca, jer mu je to neophodno potrebno.
Cijela lepeza osjećaja i vrednota se događa u jednom iskrenom i istinskom povezivanju.
Ako duboko u sebi ne osjećaju poriv, želju, motivaciju, optimizam i snagu da budu prvo bolji prema sebi, pa prema drugome i drugima, to je dovoljan znak da ta mogućnost za vezu je duboko promašena i iskrivljena.
Zato je najveća glupost birati partnera po bilo kojim parametrima, osobito prijateljskim.
Kakav to mir i poštovanje može nagnati čovjeka za velike promjene i ciljeve?
Lažan mir u kojem ostajemo u močvari egoizma i prošlosti, bez ikakve mogućnosti preobražavanja i radosti koja bi se trebala rađat u nama samima.
Zato se Bog divno pobrinuo da stvori zaljubljenost, opijeno stanje osobom kad je doživljavamo kao jedinu, posebnu i savršenu.
Kad smo sretni samo što postoji, što je tu, što smo ponosni na njene uspjehe i sretni u njihovoj sreći.
Kad nas boli njihova bol i kad se borimo sa njima znajući koliko je ta borba podjednako bitna za oboje. Kad u našoj glavi stalno se mijenjaju slike i kako stvaramo zajedničke slike u mašti.
To je prisutnost koja nadilazi stvarnost i svaki trenutak u nama stvara osjećaj potpune omamljenosti koja poput antibiotika uništava sve loše u nama i oko nas i tako nas liječi i ozdravlja.
Biti zaljubljen je blaženstvo duše, biti međusobno zaljubljen je veličanstveno, a roditi ljubav je
beskraj, svemir i vječnost, drugo lice Boga.
S ljubavlju, Željka.
Dramaturgy is a way for women to express their thoughts and emotions while simultaneously triggering a man’s screenwriter-like way of reacting.
It has been proven that men think for a longer time, but make decisions and find solutions quickly. Women, on the other hand, think and imagine more quickly and concisely, but find it difficult and slow to make choices.
Nature has played with us in exactly this way so that, through our differences, we may achieve unity. At the same time, it has made us limited and in need of one another, which is remarkable, because otherwise we would not have the longing for closeness and connection.
Thus, a man often makes a choice, regardless of the sacrifice and risk of whether it will succeed or not, while a woman analytically and thoughtfully adds color and life to that choice. She turns defeats into victories, and with love and support she encourages and comforts her man, because he needs that deeply.
The whole spectrum of feelings and values takes place in one sincere and genuine connection. If, deep within themselves, people do not feel the impulse, desire, motivation, optimism, and strength to first be better toward themselves, and then toward another person and others, that is enough of a sign that the possibility for such a relationship is deeply missed and distorted.
That is why the greatest foolishness is choosing a partner based on any set of criteria, especially those of friendship. What kind of peace and respect could inspire a person toward great changes and goals? A false peace, in which we remain in the swamp of egoism and the past, without any possibility of transformation or of the joy that should be born within us.
That is why God wonderfully made sure to create infatuation—an intoxicating state in which we experience someone as the only one, special, and perfect. When we are happy simply because they exist, because they are here, because we are proud of their successes and happy in their happiness. When their pain hurts us, and when we fight alongside them, knowing how much that struggle matters equally to both of us. When images constantly change in our minds, and when we create shared images in our imagination.
That is a presence that transcends reality, and every moment creates within us a feeling of complete intoxication—one that, like an antibiotic, destroys everything bad within us and around us, healing us and making us whole.
To be in love is the bliss of the soul; to be in love with one another is magnificent, and to give birth to love is infinity, the universe, and eternity—the other face of God.
With love, Željka.
Author: Željka Šabić
